A Man’s Guide to Relationships
My Five Rules of
Football and Marriage – Rule 3
Let’s start off by saying that I am not a licensed therapist or a professional counselor. My observations of my mother and father, who were married for over fifty years before my mother’s death and my own very happy marriage to the same woman for forty five plus years is my only source of expertise. I believe that I have learned some very valuable lesson in that time and feel it is my duty as a fellow man to pass these things on to whoever might benefit from it.
You’ve spent years preparing yourself for the day. You’ve trained, tried out for the team and have been selected. Now what? It turns out that when you were in school and your coach was teaching you the fundamentals of football, he wasn’t just teaching you football but was teaching you the things you needed for creating a lasting relationship. Who knew that coach ‘Earl the Squirrel’ was so damn smart?
Rule #3 – Stay Positive:
Constant negative press can hurt a team and a negative attitude toward a relationship can destroy it.
The problem with men in a lasting relationship is that we think that one of the greatest mysteries of the universe is what a woman really wants from it. There have been thousands of books and movies on the subject over the years. We believe that women are so complex and complicated that the only thing that will appease them is beyond our ability to give. We have been so brainwashed by the negative that we know that no matter what we try to do, it will be totally wrong.
It’s not really such a “great-unknown” mystery… women like change. Just like the offensive coordinator needs a variety of plays in his play book in order to keep the other team surprised, you need to give them variety. They crave it as badly as we desire consistency.
So the question is…if men hate change and women crave change…how will we ever get along?